Jul 31, 2008
Counting
17days and counting down.. every midnight at 12am she is a happy girl. Its one day down to freedom. hopefully.
Jul 29, 2008
She wonder
She hasn't been out of the complaining mood for a long time. She isn't sure why she doesn't seem to be as enthusiastic about her work.
Reason being that she's been working too long? Taking too long for a break? Or just can't wait to get away on a little holiday?
Somedays it seems she feels like wanting a change of job. Somedays she wished that she doesn't have to face the fact and accept the fact sadly that she needs to work on both weekend. She does hate it sometimes. She just accepted the fact, knowing she doesn't have a choice. On the other hand, she might have the choice, just by working extra faster on weekdays. Yet she can't bring herself to do so, and she dreads it somedays. Argh. Somebody tell her why all these is messing up.
Simple things she wish for, she feels so sad to think that they all can't be done. Going out a whole day in Orchard, catching movie and just walking around without rushing is so hard some days. Just so hard, yet what she wants is simple. Very simple.
Reason being that she's been working too long? Taking too long for a break? Or just can't wait to get away on a little holiday?
Somedays it seems she feels like wanting a change of job. Somedays she wished that she doesn't have to face the fact and accept the fact sadly that she needs to work on both weekend. She does hate it sometimes. She just accepted the fact, knowing she doesn't have a choice. On the other hand, she might have the choice, just by working extra faster on weekdays. Yet she can't bring herself to do so, and she dreads it somedays. Argh. Somebody tell her why all these is messing up.
Simple things she wish for, she feels so sad to think that they all can't be done. Going out a whole day in Orchard, catching movie and just walking around without rushing is so hard some days. Just so hard, yet what she wants is simple. Very simple.
Jul 28, 2008
7 Secrets to Happiness
So if such abundance doesn’t make us happy, then what does flip our bliss switch? Is it adopting the lifestyle before we had so many life options? Not entirely. Our parents grew up with fewer choices to make, but assuming their life goals isn’t the answer, because the world isn’t the same place today. The key is actually a mix of things, some timeless and some that relate to this generation. Here, the essential elements.
1. You Need a Solid Core Group of Friends
Look at Carrie from Sex and the City. Through everything from Post-it Note breakups to snapped stilettos, she is generally one happy camper. Why? She has her posse. “Friendship is one of life’s main joys,” says David Niven, PhD, author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People. “Spending time with people who really know you affords you the freedom to be yourself, which increases contentment.”
2. You Gotta Have Adventures
Now, we’re not suggesting that you totally hurl caution to the wind, but don’t get hung up on always staying on the straight and narrow. “People assume that doing the right thing leads to happiness, but actually taking risks does,” says Seaward. For you, that might entail going off on a three-day weekend with a new guy or just wearing that extraslinky minidress.
3. It’s Time to Toss Excess Stuff
If you can barely scrape together enough change to spring for that $4 latte, you’ll love this: Money (and all the crap that you can buy with it) won’t bring you happiness. In fact, when wealthy Americans were surveyed, they reported being only marginally happier than the general public. “When you have limitless funds, you tend to be hellbent on accumulating more,” says New York clinical psychiatrist Janet Taylor. “In the process, you lose the ability to appreciate what you do own and have difficulty feeling fulfilled.”
4. A Balance of Busy and Dead Time Is Key
Always zipping around in spaz mode without a second to spare for even a pee break is bound to take a toll on your mood. But so is idling the day away on the couch. “Overextending yourself induces stress, yet it also makes you feel productive, like you’re contributing something, which is very important to happiness,” says Niven. “Similarly, inactivity breeds boredom, which inspires feelings of uselessness and discontent, but lulls are vital.” Essentially, all go-go-go will wipe you out, as will a solid diet of nada, but a mix of both? Bingo!
Okay, so how do you strike the perfect balance? Fill your days with stuff you love (your Tuesday-night step class) and stuff you have to do (balancing your checkbook). Just keep in mind that at the end of the day, you want to feel like “you’ve accomplished something but that you’ve also relaxed,” says Niven. Of course, the toughest part for most of us is learning to let go
5. It’s Crucial to Give in to Temptation
You log overtime at work, hit the gym religiously, stick to a low-fat, no-fun diet, and even remember birthdays. Or maybe you aren’t quite so type A. But you still get to work on time, kiss your boss’s ass when you’d rather kick it, and play nice to your folks. Face it, making it in this world takes some serious discipline, regardless of your personality profile. “The pressure to keep up is so exhausting that it would seem like the payoff for showing such restraint would be great,” says Seaward. “But if you don’t stop to savor something pleasurable, you’re going to wind up miserable.”
6. Liking Yourself Is Nonnegotiable
Since you’re human, you have no doubt had one of those “Omigod! I can’t believe I said that” moments, followed by a “Stupid, stupid, stupid” fist to the forehead. Like, say, the time you introduced your guy to Bob the CEO at the office barbecue, only Bob’s name is actually Bill. Then you spent the rest of the night harping on what an idiot you are. “We tend to beat ourselves up, but it’s necessary to let ourselves off the hook,” says Ed Diener, PhD, professor of psychology and leading happiness researcher at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. “Inevitably, you’re going to make mistakes, and yet you still have to like yourself.”
7. You Must Stop Mentally Browsing
We know you’ve been here: You’re sitting at a restaurant, menu in hand, when the deliberation begins: Chicken or fish? Chicken or fish? After angsting for 20 minutes, you go with the fish... and then sit there until the meal comes, wondering if you should’ve gone with the chicken. Okay, maybe this is a very mild version, but in life, we do this on a larger scale all the time. “We convince ourselves that there must be something better out there, but ‘mental browsing’ is a recipe for dissatisfaction,” says Schwartz. “You’re wasting time and energy on doubting a good move just because there was another option, or 10, that you didn’t choose. You’ll never be happy if you live like this.”
The solution? Whenever a decision is in doubt — like whether your current guy is The One — pick two characteristics that are important to you (in this case, maybe it’s a sense of humor and a close-knit family). Once your criteria are established, ask yourself if they’re being met. If so, forget other options and move on. You’ll know if another option is better for you because it’ll nag at you. So relax, you’ve made the right choice...or at least one that’s going to make you happy.
1. You Need a Solid Core Group of Friends
Look at Carrie from Sex and the City. Through everything from Post-it Note breakups to snapped stilettos, she is generally one happy camper. Why? She has her posse. “Friendship is one of life’s main joys,” says David Niven, PhD, author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People. “Spending time with people who really know you affords you the freedom to be yourself, which increases contentment.”
2. You Gotta Have Adventures
Now, we’re not suggesting that you totally hurl caution to the wind, but don’t get hung up on always staying on the straight and narrow. “People assume that doing the right thing leads to happiness, but actually taking risks does,” says Seaward. For you, that might entail going off on a three-day weekend with a new guy or just wearing that extraslinky minidress.
3. It’s Time to Toss Excess Stuff
If you can barely scrape together enough change to spring for that $4 latte, you’ll love this: Money (and all the crap that you can buy with it) won’t bring you happiness. In fact, when wealthy Americans were surveyed, they reported being only marginally happier than the general public. “When you have limitless funds, you tend to be hellbent on accumulating more,” says New York clinical psychiatrist Janet Taylor. “In the process, you lose the ability to appreciate what you do own and have difficulty feeling fulfilled.”
4. A Balance of Busy and Dead Time Is Key
Always zipping around in spaz mode without a second to spare for even a pee break is bound to take a toll on your mood. But so is idling the day away on the couch. “Overextending yourself induces stress, yet it also makes you feel productive, like you’re contributing something, which is very important to happiness,” says Niven. “Similarly, inactivity breeds boredom, which inspires feelings of uselessness and discontent, but lulls are vital.” Essentially, all go-go-go will wipe you out, as will a solid diet of nada, but a mix of both? Bingo!
Okay, so how do you strike the perfect balance? Fill your days with stuff you love (your Tuesday-night step class) and stuff you have to do (balancing your checkbook). Just keep in mind that at the end of the day, you want to feel like “you’ve accomplished something but that you’ve also relaxed,” says Niven. Of course, the toughest part for most of us is learning to let go
5. It’s Crucial to Give in to Temptation
You log overtime at work, hit the gym religiously, stick to a low-fat, no-fun diet, and even remember birthdays. Or maybe you aren’t quite so type A. But you still get to work on time, kiss your boss’s ass when you’d rather kick it, and play nice to your folks. Face it, making it in this world takes some serious discipline, regardless of your personality profile. “The pressure to keep up is so exhausting that it would seem like the payoff for showing such restraint would be great,” says Seaward. “But if you don’t stop to savor something pleasurable, you’re going to wind up miserable.”
6. Liking Yourself Is Nonnegotiable
Since you’re human, you have no doubt had one of those “Omigod! I can’t believe I said that” moments, followed by a “Stupid, stupid, stupid” fist to the forehead. Like, say, the time you introduced your guy to Bob the CEO at the office barbecue, only Bob’s name is actually Bill. Then you spent the rest of the night harping on what an idiot you are. “We tend to beat ourselves up, but it’s necessary to let ourselves off the hook,” says Ed Diener, PhD, professor of psychology and leading happiness researcher at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. “Inevitably, you’re going to make mistakes, and yet you still have to like yourself.”
7. You Must Stop Mentally Browsing
We know you’ve been here: You’re sitting at a restaurant, menu in hand, when the deliberation begins: Chicken or fish? Chicken or fish? After angsting for 20 minutes, you go with the fish... and then sit there until the meal comes, wondering if you should’ve gone with the chicken. Okay, maybe this is a very mild version, but in life, we do this on a larger scale all the time. “We convince ourselves that there must be something better out there, but ‘mental browsing’ is a recipe for dissatisfaction,” says Schwartz. “You’re wasting time and energy on doubting a good move just because there was another option, or 10, that you didn’t choose. You’ll never be happy if you live like this.”
The solution? Whenever a decision is in doubt — like whether your current guy is The One — pick two characteristics that are important to you (in this case, maybe it’s a sense of humor and a close-knit family). Once your criteria are established, ask yourself if they’re being met. If so, forget other options and move on. You’ll know if another option is better for you because it’ll nag at you. So relax, you’ve made the right choice...or at least one that’s going to make you happy.
Complain and complain
Meanwhile while she can't stop complaining how spaces doesnt have to be filled up and spaces should at times be left empty because space allows for some breather, she can't wait.. simply can't wait.
So as she complains of late nights, of leg aching, of being frustrated with conceptlesss work and where to move on from conceptless work and the once awhile, "If Mak is..." Ya maybe if Mak is still here.
Somedays she feel that she should stop complaining and do something about it. So 1-either change the situation, or 2-change the way people should think. Some days actually she feels like going elsewhere as in a change of environment. However given what seems promising ahead for her but at the same time she's worried that with those rich Arabs, she might just be doing again - conceptless work. Maybe there's nothing wrong with borrowing idea iterally, but there should be some explanation to why the idea was borrowed. Nice alone, is not sufficient as an excuse or explanation.
Argh. If only...If only..she doesn't know what to do. Maybe its a lesson afterall. If there's something worth learning from this, it is to be powered by concepts, or at least some design intension.
Then again, give her the time!!!
So as she complains of late nights, of leg aching, of being frustrated with conceptlesss work and where to move on from conceptless work and the once awhile, "If Mak is..." Ya maybe if Mak is still here.
Somedays she feel that she should stop complaining and do something about it. So 1-either change the situation, or 2-change the way people should think. Some days actually she feels like going elsewhere as in a change of environment. However given what seems promising ahead for her but at the same time she's worried that with those rich Arabs, she might just be doing again - conceptless work. Maybe there's nothing wrong with borrowing idea iterally, but there should be some explanation to why the idea was borrowed. Nice alone, is not sufficient as an excuse or explanation.
Argh. If only...If only..she doesn't know what to do. Maybe its a lesson afterall. If there's something worth learning from this, it is to be powered by concepts, or at least some design intension.
Then again, give her the time!!!
Jul 21, 2008
Forgive her little excitement
Forgive her little excitement. Her little countdown. She just can't seem to wait. It's like a little dream coming true. It feels like WAHOOOO. Unable to describe. Feels like its those days she can't stop smiling literally when that day comes. Opps better not say anything too soon. ha
After the long long wait.. She knows she's gonna be broke. But somehow she just got to hope that some experiences are what money can't buy..
Just wait..very soon.
After the long long wait.. She knows she's gonna be broke. But somehow she just got to hope that some experiences are what money can't buy..
Just wait..very soon.
Jul 15, 2008
Funny sometimes..
Its fuuny when all the things she used to do for someone else and gone unfulfilled.
Remember the times she used to think alot for someone elses but it seems like it doesn't matter what she does. When she does it without wanting anything in return. She knows it might not even matter to someone else but she still does it when everyone is against it. Remember the times when she wished someone else understands why she loose her temper. And that she is trying very hard to control her behaviour because she is taught to control it and think of it in another light and maybe everything hard is not that bad too. And all those things she have not regretted doing for someone else though it may seem silly and unappreciated.
Karma might actually exist. What goes round might come around.
And finally it seems her little holiday to escape the everyday work and responsibilities,literally, might be working out. And might be a alittle more than the distance of Bangkok. She hopes it comes true. She fear that little devil in her waking up and telling her that she no longer enjoy her work and that little angel telling her that she is tired of everyday work. Till past midnite.
Remember the times she used to think alot for someone elses but it seems like it doesn't matter what she does. When she does it without wanting anything in return. She knows it might not even matter to someone else but she still does it when everyone is against it. Remember the times when she wished someone else understands why she loose her temper. And that she is trying very hard to control her behaviour because she is taught to control it and think of it in another light and maybe everything hard is not that bad too. And all those things she have not regretted doing for someone else though it may seem silly and unappreciated.
Karma might actually exist. What goes round might come around.
And finally it seems her little holiday to escape the everyday work and responsibilities,literally, might be working out. And might be a alittle more than the distance of Bangkok. She hopes it comes true. She fear that little devil in her waking up and telling her that she no longer enjoy her work and that little angel telling her that she is tired of everyday work. Till past midnite.
Jul 2, 2008
Greetings from Dong Guan
First it started of with her waking up at 6.35am and realising she should be at the airport by then. Frantically she rushed to the bathroom and thank god she kinda have packed everything the night before her flight. And that was the fastest shower she took and ccalled for the cab to fly her to T3. Lucky Syafiq's educational trip To T3 have taught her how the hell T3 looks like if not she would have been so farking confused. So thanks for the educational trip and thank herself for thinking that trip to T3 might be a new experience to try.
And this Dong Guan is boring. There is no shopping centre and nowhere she could spend her money on except the daily Starbucks(which is paid by boss and client)..And she is thinking to get Anna Sui Perfume on the way back home since the Krisworld magazine tempted her while she was on flight the other day.
Ok shall get going to bath and...hopefully soak up in the bathtub though the rainshower in the bathroom fascinates her. And the big big bed is such a nice bed. Yes. Kick and Roll and take the blanket and take the pillow as much as she likes. Freedom.
And this Dong Guan is boring. There is no shopping centre and nowhere she could spend her money on except the daily Starbucks(which is paid by boss and client)..And she is thinking to get Anna Sui Perfume on the way back home since the Krisworld magazine tempted her while she was on flight the other day.
Ok shall get going to bath and...hopefully soak up in the bathtub though the rainshower in the bathroom fascinates her. And the big big bed is such a nice bed. Yes. Kick and Roll and take the blanket and take the pillow as much as she likes. Freedom.
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